What grief actually feels like.

    If you're here, you're probably wondering when things are going to get easier for your friend. When they'll seem more like themselves. When the grief will start to lift. These three analogies are to help you understand what your friend is actually carrying, and where you fit in it.

    The Stone, at firstThe Stone, over timeThe Stone, always there

    at first

    At first it feels like a massive stone gets dropped on your friend. They're completely weighed down. They can't move.

    Every part of them is working just to stay upright under the weight of it.

    As their friend, you might be watching this and not know what to do with it. That's normal.

    What this means for you, as their friend.

    Grief doesn't have a finish line. It changes as time and healing happen.

    • The stone gets lighter when someone walks alongside them.
    • The glitter gets cleaned up faster when someone else is on their knees helping.
    • The song is easier to hear to when someone else knows it's playing.

    You don't have to know what to say. You just have to keep showing up.

    Ready to show up?

    Tell us a little about your friend and where they are in their grief. We'll help you figure out what to send, what to do, and when, so you don't have to guess your way through it.